At last, my re-emergence after several busy months. While I’ve met most all of you at a recent conference, workshop, or meeting of one of the organizations that I’m affiliated with, it’s been some time since I’ve connected with you online. This was due to an extremely busy schedule with back-to-back projects that have filled up my schedule beyond overflowing…until now. Life is a bit slower for me now.
Because experts recommend linking a message to an event, I’m linking my blog today to the death of my sister, Carla, who died unnecessarily 20 years ago today. You ask: UNnecessarily? Yes. I’ll explain that in a bit.
But, first, I have some questions for you. As many of you know, I frequently ask someone when I meet them: What makes you feel happy? Glad? Sad? or even mad? This time, I’ll ask the same question, but a bit more specific:
1st, what or who are three sources-not ‘things’-but people who have caused your happiness?
2nd, what or who are three ‘facets’ of your life you feel glad or grateful for?
3rd, what or who are three ‘events’ that have caused you to feel sad?
4th, what or who are three ‘events’ that caused you to feel mad?
Got ’em all answered? Ok. Now, save your answers in your mind for a minute while I explain my questions. The reason I asked “What are three sources vs ‘things’ that have caused you to feel glad, sad, or mad” is because ‘things’ are tangible items like a comb, cell phone, or computer. Agree?
Technically, it’s not ‘things’, but people that make us feel happy and glad, sad or mad e.g. isn’t it usually someone who did something that makes you feel glad, sad, mad? Like a romantic event with your spouse? An accomplishment at work? An achievement of your child?
Every time I ask this question, I receive a wide range of answers. From “When my husband proposed!” or “When my wife and I got married” or “When I FINALLY got that promotion that took THREE YEARS!” Or “When my daughter got accepted into the university of her dreams!” Do you see how all these answers are events caused by someone’s internal choices vs a ‘thing’ causing your feelings?
Now, think about how your answers to my questions above are really the result of an original thought followed by many choices to advance that original thought – or idea – into any actual event.
Next, consider all the thoughts that advanced your original idea into reality. It is said we have about 70,000 thoughts per day. This means between 35 and 48 thoughts per minute to use. See the importance of our thoughts and choices?
Of course, we all prefer to focus on the happy and glad moments of life. However, life is a roller coaster of memories, wouldn’t you agree? Along with happy times in our lives, sad times happen in our lives and, if you’re human, also feeling mad may, at times, creep into our heart for justified reasons when someone chooses to harm another person or a group of people … like any of the terrorist’s attacks or a tragedy caused not a gunman, but the gunman’s choice to use his gun to harm others like the 33 people killed at the Sandy Hook Elementary School in Newtown, CT.
One of the Saddest Events of my Life…
For me, one of the saddest events in my life happened 20 years ago today, Saturday, Aug 12, when my sister, Carla, died UNnecessarily! I say ‘UNnecessarily’ because she died from a brain tumor for which a cure had been developed, but the medical industry wouldn’t allow cancer patients like my sister, who was suffering from that kind of tumor to be cured. At that time, a wonderful Dr. Burzynski in Texas had been working on a cure for that kind of cancer for decades: www.burzynskiclinic.com. He had successfully invented a cure for the kind of cancer my sister had: an astrocytoma.
However, because the FDA, Federal Drug Administration, had forbidden him to give it to patients…because doing so would reduce their revenue earned from treating cancer patients like my sister, she died UNnecessarily 20 years ago today. To read about this cover-up here: https://2016burzynskicancercurecover-up.vhx.tv/
Imagine how you’d feel if she were your sister who could still be alive if it weren’t for the greed of the medical industry? This is just one of millions of examples of how selfish choices are harming innocent people and their families because so many then die unnecessarily like my sister. Have you ever lost a loved one…whether it happened intentionally or accidentally like the 100s of people who die every day from traffic accidents…many times simply due to inattentiveness by a distracted driver who was texting or drinking while driving? The loss never goes away.
Whether it’s a massively large tragedy like 9/11, the terrorist attacks here in San Bernardino, CA, in Paris or London or anywhere, they are all caused by someone’s internal choice to not only plan but carry out the plans to harm others. THIS is the reason why I work so much to draw attention to the internal, invisible choices that create the external results in our lives.
While millions watch the news such as how North Korea is steadily increasing their plans to launch a nuclear war which the media here in the USA, sadly, gives the vast majority of its attention to war-related instigations vs peace building efforts, I – as an author, educator, and consultant – am one of countless social activists. What I do is teach people ways to consciously be more aware of one’s choices so we can, collectively, create more good results e.g peace vs bad results.
My work is based on the new more empowering version of the original Serenity Prayer. As you know, the original serenity prayer is: God grant me the serenity to accept the THINGS I cannot change, the courage to change the THINGS I can, and wisdom to know the difference. Are you ready for the more empowering version of it? God grant me the serenity to accept the PEOPLE I cannot change, the courage to change the ONE person I can, and the wisdom to know it’s ME.”
Do you like the 2nd one better? Wouldn’t you agree we can create more good results in our lives by living this more empowering version of the Serenity Prayer and focusing on what each of us is creating by our daily choices?
How so? Go back to the first question now that I ask at the beginning of this blog post in which I asked you to think of events in your past. Now, flip my question around from the past to the future by starting with 3 and asking yourself: What are 3 ways I can create more happiness – vs sadness or ‘madness’ for someone else by the choices I make today?
Then, tomorrow, stretch yourself by thinking of 4 ways and, when you are ready to, max out by thinking of 5 ways you can ‘Make Someone Else’s Day’ by simply extending a hand of helpfulness…in whatever way they need help! And watch how the universe thanks you back!
That’s the good ole Law of Karma in effect! Help a stranger on first base and notice how a strange angel shows up to help you sooner or later on 2nd or 3rd base when you need help! Try it…and let me know your results. I’d love to hear from you.
Signing off for now on Saturday, Aug 12.
Think Consciously, Choose Carefully. Relax and Proceed!