First, I’d like to commend all mothers who are consumed with raising children-whether they are your biological children or not. In my opinion, when we shift our association of the word ‘mother’ from a noun to a verb, *mother* can mean being committed to caring for another person over a long period of time vs helping someone once in their time of need like the Good Samaritan did.
As a mother whose own children are raised and now are busy raising my grandchildren, my focus has shifted from raising my three biological children to what many women have said: “I’m a social mom now because I’m helping solve some problems that hurt my heart due to the pain it has caused countless innocent victims.” Are there any of you in this phase of life?
As most all of you know, my work is to promote respectfulness worldwide – 1st From all, 2nd To all, & last, For all! If you are asking: How did I choose to get involved with promoting respectfulness, it’s because I had two situations happen to me that have ignited empathy within me for women in any industry, community, culture or religion, company, or country who have been treated disrespectfully…whether it is in their homes, jobs, or out in society.
My heart goes out to the victims of abuse from dozens of men e.g. Harvey Weinstein, Bill Cosby, Larry Nassar the physician of female Olympians, politicians, etc. Unfortunately, the victims include hundreds of women in dozens of industries from entertainment to business, from sports to politics and, even, to young altar boys who have been abused by hundreds of priests worldwide! How hypocritical of them to preach respectfulness from the pulpit, but NOT live it… 🙁
Ladies, I hope you have never been abused in any way in your life. Having shared my sincere hope, I think you would be lucky if you have not ever been either actually abused or simply treated disrespectfully.
Having it happen to me once personally and once professionally is enough for me to convert my Business Process Improvement skills a.k.a. BPI skills that I developed in the corporate world over 25 years- to usage of them in a social way by inventing a simple 3-step way for all to be respectful. Because there wasn’t a system in place to proactively prevent abuse caused by selfish motives & choices, I used my BPI skills to create a standard for respectfulness.
Wouldn’t you agree that a proactive effort is better to prevent crimes than waiting for a crime to happen and, THEN, reactively responding after any kind of abuse has happened? Wouldn’t you prefer to have a problem prevented vs having to deal or live w/ it-sometimes for life?
I believe if we are fighting to have our rights as humans honored without modeling to others what we want from others, we’re going about our approach in a backward manner. We’ve placed the cart in front of the horse or are seeking a figurative harvest before planting the seeds of whatever we want to, figuratively, ‘harvest’ (receive) in our lives.
To illustrate this, ask yourself :
1. How quickly would you sign up for or purchase a training about organization that a disorganized person is selling?
2. How quickly would you sign up for an AA program if the person promoting it was still an alcoholic?
3. How quickly would you sign up for a Weight Watchers program if the person promoting it was very obese?
Bottom line, I believe we have a phenomenal opportunity to get what we want, respectfulness in every industry and situation, but only when we, first, model respectfulness to others that we want from them. Wouldn’t you agree?
For all the unfair situations in the past you may have reluctantly had to put up with, let’s *Raise the up NOW with which we will not put!*
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